Final class was an Open Space Conversation which was fun and interesting. We did one for Organisational Behaviour but I failed to write it up in any detail.
I started a conversation about ‘scripts’ and people came and talked about things they’d done well, and things they had learned. We talked about how communicating with people works best where you’re genuine and engaged and traded phrases that were particularly successful in certain situations.
Then I joined a conversation about using the Giving Voice to Values framework in personal relationships, the men were fascinating, they talked about whether it was more important to speak or to maintain harmony. I got the impression that ‘speak’ and ‘win were kind of interlinked in some people’s heads. We also talked a bit about whether it’s ‘speaking’ to take out your shitty mood on someone - I would call that ‘domestic violence.’ *grins* they teased each other a lot. I talked a bit about the process of working out if a relationship is meeting your needs and how you use that to decide to stay/go and some of the men were a bit perplexed by this - reinforcing for me the stat that says it’s usually women who end relationships.
The last conversation I joined was one about whether people were using the Giving Voice to Values framework and people talked about moments when they had done a bit more planning, or applied more of a framework to difficult situations and gotten outcomes. I haven’t been, but I see large chunks of the framework in the Fridaynight group in the way we use each other to unpack difficult situations and plan responses, I also see it in the Safe Spaces discussion panels.
One particularly interesting story was a person who said they had attended the same-sex marriage protest rally and was gearing up to speak to their local politician - they were using the framework to prepare for the conversation. It was also heartening to hear them refer to the Heterosexual Privilege Checklist.
I’m glad I went to the last class, it was good fun and the conversations were an opportunity to talk about how things relate to our every day lives. I spoke quite personally and felt a bit raw at the end - I am still waiting to be punished for being me which, yes, is, well, what it is I guess. I console myself that I like being that person, that being visible, queer and real is important and that choosing to be vulnerable in this world is how I wish to engage.
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maharetr rewards me for reaching milestones and celebrates them with me. She is currently feeding me graphic novels, when I got home she ceremonially presented me with the third one to squeals of enthusiasm.
I started a conversation about ‘scripts’ and people came and talked about things they’d done well, and things they had learned. We talked about how communicating with people works best where you’re genuine and engaged and traded phrases that were particularly successful in certain situations.
Then I joined a conversation about using the Giving Voice to Values framework in personal relationships, the men were fascinating, they talked about whether it was more important to speak or to maintain harmony. I got the impression that ‘speak’ and ‘win were kind of interlinked in some people’s heads. We also talked a bit about whether it’s ‘speaking’ to take out your shitty mood on someone - I would call that ‘domestic violence.’ *grins* they teased each other a lot. I talked a bit about the process of working out if a relationship is meeting your needs and how you use that to decide to stay/go and some of the men were a bit perplexed by this - reinforcing for me the stat that says it’s usually women who end relationships.
The last conversation I joined was one about whether people were using the Giving Voice to Values framework and people talked about moments when they had done a bit more planning, or applied more of a framework to difficult situations and gotten outcomes. I haven’t been, but I see large chunks of the framework in the Fridaynight group in the way we use each other to unpack difficult situations and plan responses, I also see it in the Safe Spaces discussion panels.
One particularly interesting story was a person who said they had attended the same-sex marriage protest rally and was gearing up to speak to their local politician - they were using the framework to prepare for the conversation. It was also heartening to hear them refer to the Heterosexual Privilege Checklist.
I’m glad I went to the last class, it was good fun and the conversations were an opportunity to talk about how things relate to our every day lives. I spoke quite personally and felt a bit raw at the end - I am still waiting to be punished for being me which, yes, is, well, what it is I guess. I console myself that I like being that person, that being visible, queer and real is important and that choosing to be vulnerable in this world is how I wish to engage.
My beautiful
maharetr rewards me for reaching milestones and celebrates them with me. She is currently feeding me graphic novels, when I got home she ceremonially presented me with the third one to squeals of enthusiasm.